How can you pre-plan yourself to deal with your baby?
It is important to be organized and make a game plan to take care of your newborn. A game plan is necessary to make your life easy. You need to set up work schedules so that you can maximize parental time with the baby and minimize non-parental care.
Some of the game plans for parenting are:
Nurse your baby as long as you can:
The longer the nursing period, the greater the effect it has on the health and intelligence of the infant. It also lowers the risk of breast cancer later in life. The positive effects of breast milk are diminishing with the use of supplements. So, it is good to nurse your baby for at least a year to increase your milk supply instead of supplementing.
Do not nurse during the night:
It may be challenging to teach your baby to go to sleep without nursing, but many pediatricians recommend no more night nursing after 12 months as you may risk your baby with cavities.
By six months, most of the babies start grabbing soft food like cooked peas, carrots, etc. In the beginning, you may need to feed spoonful of cereals to your baby, but as soon as the baby starts grabbing the spoon, let him feed himself. The less time you feed your baby with a spoon, the better. It helps you to avoid all the control and power issues related to food, that arise from spoon-feeding.
Don’t lose connection with the baby, if you are working:
The very development of the child depends upon, how well they feel connected to their mom and dad. This connection is not something, that you can do in your spare time. Give time to your baby, when he is awake.
When the child is in elementary school, the parents usually feel relieved, as their children are busy with their peer groups. If their focus on the peer group increases, then it is easy for your child to feel increasingly disconnected with you.
Sometimes you may not feel it, but your influence on the child starts reducing, as your child begins to shape his behavior, based on the norms of the schoolmates or neighborhood. Hence, your goal is to build a strong relationship with your child, which will provide a counter-balance to peer culture and a solid foundation to get you through the teen years.
Some of the tips as to, how you can stay connected with your child are:
Develop family rituals:
Developing family rituals will help to foster connection. Start family meetings, Sunday morning brunches with the entire family, shopping for groceries with Mom or Dad, etc. All these small things help to build strong relationships. Make them a routine, so that everyone expects them and looks forward to them.
Know about your child’s peer relations:
Your child’s peers will become increasingly important, as he gets older and will impact tremendously, to whom he becomes as an adult. Children who are rejected or ridiculed by others can develop an inferiority complex that plagues them throughout life. However, children who find themselves in a specific role, develop a superiority complex. Your influence on your child will help him tackle such situations and be confident in life.
You may not watch TV at your home or let your child dress like a pop star, because you think this will compromise your family values. But when you notice such activities in the peer group, make your child feel different and make necessary changes, so that your child can fit differently. Make sure that your child has plenty of opportunities to be with other children and to learn how to function well in groups.
Make sure your child’s peers value academics:
The attitude of your child towards schoolwork is greatly influenced by his peers. How much effort they put into schoolwork and how well they do in school will be very similar to how their immediate peer group approaches to schoolwork. If you want your child to do well academically, be sure that he is in a peer group who values learning.
Do not say ‘NO’ all the time:
Some researches say that too many No’s will lower the IQ of the child by teaching your child to think inside the box. Also, saying ‘NO’ all the time will cause the word ‘NO’ to lose its power. Instead of saying ‘No’ think two steps ahead and redirect your baby.
Let your child develop problem-solving and negotiating skills:
Some parents believe that the secret of making parenting bearable is to negotiate. By doing so, you let your child develops the good skill of negotiations. If you leave them open to the pressures of the peer group under your guidance, your child will take responsibility for his behavior and he will learn to think for himself.
The child should believe in you and the fact that you will always be there for him, no matter what he does will help him develop problem-solving skills.
Don’t get isolated, when you are at home with your child:
When you are at home don’t isolate yourself. Interact with your child, play with him and take him along, when you meet your old friends.
Your child will be an adult someday and all you have left from this precious time is the memories that you are building now. So, make the most of it!