What are the benefit of sharing and why should you not force your kids to share?

What are the benefit of sharing and why should you not force your kids to share?

Most parents have been in an awkward situation where their kid will not share a toy with the other kid at the play area or during a playdate. We stay there and try to convince our child to share his toy with another kid who is very keen on it. Sometimes, do not force or pressurise your kid to share. So, before we take a look at why not, let’s give a glance at the advantages of sharing.

• Sharing helps to make new friends without much efforts, as you get to communicate and do something together.
• It develops the feeling of satisfaction as it may give your child a chance to be able to help someone else.
• When your child shares with the other child, your child gives his friend an opportunity to utilize something they do not own and know their interest in the object.
• Sharing may also help your kid in being able to work with others and utilize the resources productively when shared.

Why not to Force your child to share?

1. Some toys are simply too exceptional to even think about sharing, because a parent or a close friend offered it to them. Or it may be a toy that has been with the kid since the beginning. Sometimes, they don’t wish to share or watch another person play with it. It’s not reasonable to force them, or even request that they do this.

Why not to Force your child to share

2) Children have a troublesome time dealing with this idea: Kids will naturally learn to share as they grow old and you will find them to be as you want them to be. But at a very young age, it gets difficult for them to grasp this concept and they may feel like crying.

3) Respect, autonomy, and the basic privileges of a kid:  Sharing is a great thing to do but only if a person chooses to do it without being forced to. To a kid, forcing is forcing. There needs to be a line where you let your kid learn that nobody could force them to do certain things and they own their toy and have the right to play with it. If you respect your kid, he will in turn respect you and others around him.

child playing

4) Ownership (of things and individuals):  We want our kids to be responsible for their things. Even adults do not share their valuables and nobody forces them. Then why expect it from a little child. The tiny one is surely protective about his valuables which maybe precious to him even if not to you.

We don’t own our kids mind. We don’t own individuals, we only own things. Nobody is entitled to my things. In the event that you or your kid need to GIVE somebody something, that is a privilege and should not be forced.

5) The world out there… In ‘this present reality’: if a grown-up is using something, is it given to someone else basically on the grounds that they need it? No. At that point when a grown-up is using something, someone else holds up until they are done. As grown-ups, we don’t claim all that we see.

Most grown-ups wouldn’t take something from another person, essentially in light of the fact that they need it. So how could you force your kid to do it when you would not either?

6) Teaching Patience: Everything in life can’t be our own without a moment’s notice… can it? kids shouldn’t be forced to surrender something since another person needs it. Also, you cannot have something you need right away.

At that point when our kids need something which somebody is playing with, we ask our kids to find another toy to play with until their friend is done. In the event, this helps the child to learn to be patient while he waits.

Although, not forcing your child to share should not be left there.  You must create situations where your child learns the habit of sharing. You need to understand when not to ask them to do it and when encouraging it. Also, remember to be an example for your little one, always. Happy Parenting.


1. Sharing may have a number of benefits but it isn’t a great idea to force your kid to share.
2. When you force, you take away their privilege to own things and pass an idea that you get things when you want.
3. The object may also be something special to your child which isn’t to be forced to share with, also, your kid may feel that an adult has control over its decisions.
4. Forcing to share will also refrain from your child learning to be patient.

What are the benefit of sharing and why should you not force your kids to share

Why not to Force your child to share

Children have a troublesome time dealing with this idea

Respect, autonomy and the basic privileges of a kid

Ownership (of things and individuals)

The world out there… In 'this present reality'

Teaching Patience


Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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