How can parents help their teen to cope up with sports anxiety?
Sports Anxiety is a situation of panic and nervousness to perform well, which could be experienced by a teenager most of the time. Teenagers are often very sensitive and little things can get them disappointed and frustrated. Coping up with such anxiety is what is necessary, their parents and coaches could help to deal with it, to a great extent. Here are a few things, as a parent you should keep in mind.
Loving the game: If your kids love to play a certain game he would be less anxious about it and feel more confident. As a parent, you need to make sure that your child should enjoy the game more than just performing it as a mere necessity.
Do not ask for Victory: We often see parents saying their kids to go win that game just before the match. We might think it as a positive gesture but could act oppositely for the child. He might come in pressure to win and get depressed if loses and more importantly could not perform well during the game. So simply ask them to have fun and give their best.
Do not cheer massively: Cheering your child could be healthy to boost his self-esteem but cheering constantly could start bothering them. They would compare that excitement with the one if they lose and start worrying, which ultimately results in affected performance.
Do not make faces or expressions:
One wrong shot and we tense up, which starts to show up on our face. The change in our expression lowers the spirit of your child, is in no way helping him overcome the stress about the game. So try to be calm and composed.
Do not make statements: We often hear kids say “My parents would be so proud if I won” or “I have to do this, they put in so much money” or “I want my parents to be happy”. Do not let any such thought wander in their minds, because it will serve no purpose and make the child feel panicked before the game.
Celebrate failures: There is absolutely no wrong in celebrating your child’s failure. Try to see the good side here and encourage your child. Try to celebrate his attempts and efforts. This will just help the kid to focus better the next time and have a thought that their parents are still going to be proud of them.
Set Benchmarks: Set up small goals and let your kid achieve them. Praise them when it is completed. It will just help your child to be more confident and prepared.
Do it all off-field: All the excitement and enthusiasm, you show over the field on the final day, is all you should equally do it, off the field while your kid is practicing. Help him prepare for the sport and learn about every basic. Having complete knowledge would make the child less anxious and take up the upcoming challenges during the game effectively.
Letting them worry: Asking your child to relax or have no worries isn’t going to help them worry any less. Letting them worry a little could teach them how to deal with the situation themselves. Give them enough time to talk about, what worries them and provide them with reasonable alternatives and/or solutions.
Prepare the child for the big game. Teach them how to calm themselves down with a simple technique. Some of them could be – long breathes, Stress ball, writing it out, talking to an adult or reframing them with positive thoughts
Finally, keep yourself tracked. Dealing with a child having sports anxiety could be difficult as a parent, but you need to manage yourself well. Use this technique to keep yourself relaxed too. Do not overlook your health and needs, because doing so would leave you with no energy to look after your child.
Have hope and stay positive.
• Make your child play the game he likes.
• Do not ask for victory before the match, it will add to his stress. Just ask your child to go play and enjoy the game.
• Nothing wrong in celebrating your child’s failure. Try to see the good side here and encourage your child.
• Set up small goals and let your kids achieve them. Praise them when it is completed.
• Letting them worry a little could teach them how to deal with the situation themselves.
• Prepare the child for the big game. Teach them how to calm themselves down with a simple technique.