How can you teach your child to be compassionate during teenage?

How can you teach your child to be compassionate during teenage?

A teen often has a self-centred and notorious behaviour and forget to see the needs of another person that is expected from them. Empathy is one such need. It may have happened to you when you would have been sick or after a long rough day and your teen may have had walked past you and not even asked, if you need something or if they could do anything for you to be better.

You may tend to question if your teen does not have any compassion for others? Or if they lack to see things from the other person’s point of view? However, it is just that, the way the brain develops in adolescence affects the quality like empathy but as a parent, you could still do a lot to teach your teen to be compassionate. This should start right from childhood which will be instilled in the child.

But remember, sometimes it’s not the lack of empathy, but it is that your teen may not know how to respond to such situations or deal with their own emotions and simply choose to avoid it. So, here are ways you could teach your child to be compassionate and/or be able to show it better:

1. Have a secure attachment with your kid: At this point when your child’s own emotional needs are attended to, they will increasingly start to show compassion and help other people who are in trouble. As a parent, you can try to build up a secure connection with your teen; help them realize that they can rely on you for both emotional and physical help.


Research demonstrates that kids who have guardians that help them adapt to negative feelings in a thoughtful, solution-seeking method, are bound to show concern for other children and people.

2. The discussion frequently about emotions during everyday life: Discuss recent developments with your youngsters and ask them how they find the individuals in a particular story or situation that he may feel. You can likewise talk about circumstances that your youngster may find in TV shows with fictional characters. Inquire as to whether they can relate or understand a specific individual in the show and why.

At that point, ask them what the other characters may think and what would be the feeling. (For instance: The musical “Wicked” is a genuine case of how we are prepared to just observe a story from one perspective. Talk about stories related to emotions, all things considered, and circumstances, keeping in mind the real life.)

3. Be a good example for connecting with individuals: Give complete attention to your child, and other individuals around you regularly. Switch off the TV or put down gadgets, get rid of all the distractions and focus your complete attention on the individual you’re with.

Urge your teenager to do a similar thing when conversing with you. Reveal to them a tale about when you may have suspected a companion, who was in a difficult situation, what you were contemplating at that time and what you did to help.

Talk about the various arrangements with your child

4. Talk about the various arrangements: Help them to settle issues on various circumstances. For instance, “How you might want to be dealt with when you were the new student in the class?”. “In the event that you were being prodded, what you might expect your companions to do to help you?”, or “If at all, you had been away from school for three weeks, what you might like your companions to say when you returned?” Make them think for the answers to these and help them to step into someone else’s shoe and rethink.

5. Realize that they aren’t you: Treat your kid as a person with their very own personality. Do not expect them to be like you, in different situations. Talk about their passionate and mental states and help them see how sentiments, wants and feelings can impact their behaviour. You can show your kid how to perceive and name emotions by demonstrating the verbal form of your own sentiments and also of those that you may have seen in others.

Moreover, always go back to when you were a teen and how you felt then. You too may have found it difficult to be compassionate. Relate it with your teen and implement other ways to teach them to be compassionate based on your observation of your child. You always know them better, so address their emotions accordingly. Never expect too much from your child and make sure your kid is aware of and can manage their own emotions.


1. Teens may lack to be compassion, due to their natural self-centred behaviour which is quite normal.
2. Having an attachment with your kid and talking to them about their feelings is a great way to help them learn to be compassionate.
3. Always be a good example for your child to learn from and help them to deal appropriately with various issues.
4. Remember that your kid is different from you and you do not expect the same from them.

How can you teach your child to be compassionate during teenage

Have a secure attachment with your kid

The discussion frequently about emotions during everyday life

Be a good example for connecting with individuals

Talk about the various arrangements

Realize that they aren't you


Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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