How can you teach your child to be responsible for his behaviour?

How can you teach your child to be responsible for his behaviour?

Your child means the world to you and love them without any expectations. And more often you tend to ignore their mistakes. Sometimes this can lead to a lack of responsibility in them. You might expect your teen to take responsibility as she grows but sometimes it doesn’t work like that.

They need not have to be perfect or ideal. The main objective of teaching them the sense of responsibility is to make them ready to face the harsh realities of adulthood. You just need to create an atmosphere and they’ll learn on their own. You just need to support them in everything they do.

Let them know that you are there for them in need but give them a chance to handle things in their way. They need to handle their mistakes on their own to know what the future beholds. Guide and show them how it is done but let them do it by themselves. That’s how they’ll learn.

Freedom: Freedom is a controversial topic among parents and teenagers. Teenagers want more of it and parents aren’t sure how much freedom is right.  Freedom within limits is always advisable.

You can set up time limits and create situations to test whether they are responsible enough or not. In case they abide by it and make good choices or decisions and can handle the freedom given to them judiciously then there is no harm in giving them some more.

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Help out: Another way to teach your teen responsibilities is by asking them to help you in the household chores and other activities. It teaches them to be independent and be proactive in all the duties. It also helps boost their self-esteem. Remind your child about the satisfaction of a job well done.

Schedule: Ensure that you follow a routine or schedule with your child. It teaches them discipline along with responsibility. They should be aware of the fact that there is a right time to do certain activities. Sit with them and develop a schedule consisting of their homework, extracurricular activities and household chores. This gives them clarity on how to manage their time well. Creating a schedule teaches them the perks of time management, which will help them later in adulthood.

Consequences in teen

Consequences: It’s natural for your child to make mistakes now and then. But most importantly they need to learn from the mistakes they make. You need to let them know that it’s all right to make mistakes, but they will have to face the consequences as well. Don’t be harsh on your child, as it is just to teach them that not all their mistakes can be forgiven.

Negative words: Refrain from calling your child as “irresponsible” or labelling them harshly. It spreads negativity in the household. They might feel insecure and inferior. Instead, support them with positive vibes and words. It will help them feel good and will give a boost to try out new activities and be more responsible.

No-blame game: When something goes wrong instead of facing the situation, teenagers tend to play the blame- game where they tend to blame somebody for their mistakes. Blaming is an act of defence but they should know that it is not fair and they need to own their mistakes. Create an environment where they can communicate with you freely and understand, that it is okay to do mistakes provided they take responsibility for it.

Let them think: Instead of protecting their mistakes, always let them think. Let them try and solve the situation before asking for your help. It increases their life skills and problem-solving skills.

Model responsibility: Don’t just give out responsibilities or ask them what to do, instead showcase to them. The rules are not only for them it is for you as well. Children follow your footsteps and they tend to learn from what they see. If you do something they will follow you immediately.

Praise them when they get something done. This gives them a boost and encourages them to do things. They get a sense of ownership and award them for their good behaviour. Creating a positive attitude will help the child in every way.

SUMMARY

• You might expect your teen to take responsibility as she grows but sometimes it doesn’t work like that.
• They need not be perfect and ideal. The main objective of teaching them the sense of responsibility is to make them ready to face the harsh realities of adulthood.
• Let them know that you are there for them, in need but give them a chance to handle things in their way. They need to handle their mistakes on their own to know what the future beholds.
• Create an environment where they can communicate with you freely and understand that it is okay to make mistakes provided they take responsibility for it.
• Don’t just give out responsibilities or ask them what to do, instead showcase to them. The rules are not only for them it is for you as well. Children follow your footsteps and they tend to learn from what they see.

How can you teach your child to be responsible for his behaviour

sense of responsibility

Freedom

Help out

Schedule

Negative words

No-blame game

Let them think

Model responsibility

Malathi

Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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