What are a few important tips to prevent the aggressive behaviour of your child?

What are a few important tips to prevent the aggressive behaviour of your child?

Remember the first time your child crawled up to you with that huge smile and innocent face? I’m sure you might be so overwhelmed at that moment.

But so do you remember, when your child got all annoyed and starts to throw stuff or mess around not hearing to you, even a bit. You will have the experience of both the times at this stage. Although, letting that aggressive nature grow in your child is not a healthy sign.
Here are a few tips that would help you improve your child’s behaviour in such a situation.

To understand the “Why” and “What”:
As a parent, you need to first examine What may make your child aggressive and also, Why is he behaving in that manner. Here, understanding the finest difference between the two, “what” and “why” is necessary.

‘What’ refers to actions or situations that result in your child acting inappropriately, whereas ‘Why’ indicates the reasons due to which he has built up that approach.

aggressive behaviour of child or toddler

Come up with a naughty corner: Naughty corner simply means to make a place in your house, which indicates that being on that chair or place means he has done something, they should have not and so would not be allowed to participate in anything for a specific period. Taking your child to that place instantly gives him an idea of what has been done and you would not have to say something every time. Doing so would also give him time to calm down and do some thinking.

Having a familiar face around Childs at this little age turns to be more nervous and anxious when they are left alone with nobody they know or people they haven’t met before. This might lead the child to react abruptly to any person, due to lack of trust and tend to start hitting orbiting them when spoken to or touched. Having someone they know around assures them and makes them calmer.

Set up the talking hour: Make sure that every day you have an hour during which you and your baby talk to each other and do the listening. Give him the undivided attention. Allow them to open up their minds and teach them what is appropriate and what isn’t. Having a serious conversation is the best way to sneak peek into their thoughts and be in a situation to respond. Here, keep in mind to highlight the important things of the day and do not confuse them with the irrelevant ones.

Give responsibilities: Give your child a small task to do and praise them at its completion. Doing so will not only keep them occupied and distracted but would also help them feel good about themselves. For instance, get them to paint a pot or together clean the toy’s areas. There is learning, on one hand, and bonding on the other. And the most important, do not forget to capture their art and these heartwarming moments too.

Note yourself: Children watch, observe, imitate, and learn from their parents as guides. They have the best memory and you would regret behaving inappropriately with no self-control or anger with them.  That’s just why you need to be aware of every tiny thing you do and be equally responsible for the decisions you make. Try being wise, calm and stable with all your senses.

The art of murmuring: Now you would be wondering what purpose would that serve. But do you remember the great Charlie Chaplin doing his silent talking and we all kept trying to read his lips?

You don’t need to move your lips here and fake talking but instead actually talk in a very minimal tone. When you do that, your child will direct his entire focus in hearing you and forgets what has been bothering him for a while.

The child instantly vibes with someone who loves them

Use love:

The child instantly vibes with someone who loves them. They feel safe and wish to happily obey that person. Being angry or harsh on them would not fetch you or your child anything, it will only scare him more and more eventually feeling low.

Treat them with love and care all the time even when they behave ill-mannered. Hug them or show them that the person who loves them the most has been hurt because of them, which might make them calm and conscious about their actions.

Believe me, a little child would understand these emotions better than an adult. Above all, be patient with your child and stay firm and strong.

1. As a parent, you need to first understand What may make your child aggressive and also Why is he behaving in that manner?
2. Come up with a Naughty corner and when you take him there, he will understand he has done something wrong, which he should not do.
3. Make sure that every day you have an hour during which you talk to your child and do the listening.
4. Give your child a small task to do and praise him at its completion.
5. Treat him with love and care at all times, even when they behave ill-mannered.

To understand the “Why” and “What”:

Come up with a naughty corner

Having a familiar face around

Set up the talking hour

Give responsibilities

The art of murmuring


Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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