It is actually good if your toddler throws tantrums. Why?

It is actually good if your toddler throws tantrums. Why?

Those terrible anger outbursts can have various advantages. Difficult to accept, but true. You kid may have a tantrum at the supermarket or get together leaving you all awkward and questioning your own parenting. However, these anger tantrums are a sign of your kid’s emotional growth and stability, and eventually, you could figure out how to deal with it better.

Preferred to be let out, than keeping in:

Tears contain cortisol, the pressure hormone. When we cry, we are actually discharging worry from our body. Tears are found to reduce blood pressure and improve emotional stability, given, there’s a friend or family member close for help. You may have seen that when your baby is about to have a tantrum, nothing seems right to them.

They are angry, frustrated and cry. Therefore, you do not have to interrupt the process and let them reach the point of calmness on their own when they are done. It will help them feel better, but you should be around.

Understanding the child’s feelings:

You will be able to understand your child’s point of view and consider that your kid does not have any knowledge, how a particular emotion feels like, as they have just been on this planet for a few years.

An anger tantrum implies your little one is encountering disappointment, outrage, bitterness, dread or any blend of huge emotions. Recognizing those feelings and letting her realize they are normal and alright, can help you a long way.

temper-tantrums in toddler

Figuring out how to deal:

Your kid is still learning how to react to different emotions and it is a tough task for a kid particularly under 5 years of age. By reacting calmly with patience and demonstrating how to respond to troubling circumstances, (for example, an emergency), you are helping your kid- figure out how to adapt.

toddler tantrum

Displaying Self-Awareness:

Your baby understands what he needs, however, may not yet realize how to express. The inability to express may lead to a tantrum sometimes. Showing him how to name these sentiments, for example, by saying, “You feel disappointed that we cannot go to the park.” can remove the anxiety and dissatisfaction he is encountering.

Developing Self-Confidence:

During the early years, kids believe that they are different from their folks. They build up a feeling of self-rule, thinking that they can say, “No!” to have their own control. Tantrums are a result of such information, where the kid wants you with him but also wants the things he has been asking for. Therefore, in some way, tantrums help the kid to build their own self-confidence.

Building a Bond:

Anger tantrums aren’t pleasant enough to either the kid or the parent. However, when parents react in an understanding manner and let their child know that their emotions are considered, it helps to build a bond. Eventually, your kids will know that they have a protective net with you, in this huge world when they can figure their way through all the emotions.

Getting to be Reflective:

As a parent, during an anger tantrum, you get a chance to react and understand your child’s sentiments, responses and emotions. When you explain the same to your kid, they will think about it later, understand and know how to react better in the future.

Finding Empathy:

The more the anger tantrums, the more is the kid to understand his feelings and also other’s feeling in response to his anger. When you show that you understand, acknowledge and identify what he is experiencing, he gains the abilities to show empathy when another person is in such a situation.

Boosting Brain Development:

You kid’s cerebrum isn’t yet developed completely and undergoes changes until he is 20yrs to be connected enough. So, when you respond strongly and suitably to an anger tantrum, you are helping your kid’s cerebrum to have proper judgement and response well to whatever comes their way with a positive attitude.

Moreover, dealing with your child may remind you of the days where your parents might not have heard to your anger or disappointments. Therefore, dealing with patients and calming yourself first is the best solution.

Try to avoid the tantrum but understanding the needs of your child and helping them understand their emotions better is the right way to deal with your child’s tantrums. Happy Parenting.


1. Toddler tantrums help them let out their emotions instead of keeping it in and effecting the emotional state.
2. It will also help them build a bond with you and develop reflexes to various sentiments or situations.
3. It may also help them deal in their way and enhance self-awareness and self-confidence when they say a NO.

Preferred to be let out, then keeping in

Understanding the child’s feelings

Figuring out how to deal

Displaying Self-Awareness

Developing Self-Confidence

Building a Bond

Getting to be Reflective

Finding Empathy

Boosting Brain Development

Toddler tantrums


Malathi A Ganesh is a B. Com Graduate, NTT, M.A (Lit), PGDEA (PG in Education Administration), PGDCA (PG Diploma in Computer Application), DTE (Diploma in Teaching English), ICEPT (International Certificate in Education Preschool Teaching) from Singapore and B. Ed. She has been in the field of education for the past 20 years and has an experience of running her own pre-school She is the Founder & Director Academics of Smartkidz Educare India Pvt Ltd with 275+ play schools Pan India. She is an Educationist and a Child Psychologists by profession who wants to fulfill her dream of giving Quality Education to children in their earlier years. She is also into conducting positive parenting workshops, which talks about effective child rearing. She has conducted numerous parenting workshops in all her pre schools, schools and MNC’s.

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